Our Black Boys

My heart has been torn apart over and over again over the last month. There have been a lot of highs and lows. A high for me was when Jessie Williams gave his acceptance speech for the Humanitarian award at the BET awards. He gave me wisdom and hope. He made me proud to be black and strong. He spoke so eloquently about the struggles we face but also reminded black people that we have to support our community if we want to succeed and be taken seriously. I can respect that he spoke about systemic racism but he also educates black people on what we need to do as a people to be better. As if to say, we’re in a messed up position but we can’t blame everything on them. We have some ownership as well that needs to be addressed and reset.

Unfortunately, there have been so many lows. Unarmed black men are being shot rather than detained for their alleged crimes. Police officers are being targeted and shot based off of their race and profession. Racial tensions are brewing. Our nation is divided. Police are becoming scarier to minorities and more untrustworthy. I’m sure that we’ll see more black people being killed in the near future. It’s a vicious cycle that continues to repeat itself. Enough is enough! We’re never going to get anywhere if we keep shooting random police officers and unarmed people of color.

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Over the weekend, I found out that I’ll be an aunty to a baby boy. I am beyond exciting because we have no boys in our family and I think it’ll be nice to have some balance. Girls are great, but I’m excited to have a little boy around. Later that night, I started thinking about all our recent current events and all the social injustices I’ve witnessed and experienced, even in 2016! This made my heart drop because I started thinking about that little black boy that will be coming into the world in a few months. I’ve heard the horror stories from friends and colleagues who are moms to black boys and men. One of my friends’ had to go down to the police station and inquire why her son was pulled over every time he was in a certain county. Trayvon Martin anyone? Luckily, she was able to rectify the situation before something tragic happened. This is new territory for our family, because as I stated before, we do not have any boys in our family. I’ve witnessed and am well aware of the struggles of being black man in America. But, when it’s your family, and I think of Tamir Rice and how young he was, it becomes much more real to you.

As excited as I am, I’m also scared to death. I’m nervous of the world he’s being born into. We all want our kids to be happy and healthy and I am no different. I want my nephew to be able to be an innocent little boy. I don’t want anyone to be fearful of him as he grows up or write him off as a criminal in the making. I just want my nephew to be able to grow up in a world where he doesn’t have to second guess if he was mistreated because of his skin color. He doesn’t have to wonder if someone doesn’t like him because of his race and he doesn’t have to fear for his life if he gets pulled over for a broken taillight.

Hopefully, we as a country can get to a place of mutual respect and the senseless murders can stop. If we don’t, I fear for the future.

Will the Real Hip Hop Please Stand Up?!

 

Hip hop is a love of mine- a deep love based on experience and relevance. Just like old friends. It is a savior. It is art.Through the eyes of hip hop many horrible struggles have been transformed into inside jokes with myself.

Hip hop is a chance to exhale and let someone tell your story when you no longer have the energy to. Hip hop fights for us, soothes us. Hip hop is a friend in the dark moments of the soul. Hip hop is not to be confused with some of the fuckery we’ve been hearing lately.

Hip hop is a guide for a sub culture that although not in the media is still a real culture. Hip hop represents us. Hip hop is a protective big brother giving us advise that is relevant. It is a friend that assures us everything will be okay, and tells us why and how.

Hip hop kisses our tears and tells us we are not what they say, we are kings and queens and are worthy.

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Where has my friend gone? Where is the love we shared? Were the words always so hurtful? Or did I not hear them when I was just a girl. Before I had been cheated on. Before I was a woman who yearned to be more than a sex symbol. Before I had children of my own. Is it me who has changed or you?

Gemstone (Science) Magic

Diamonds, emeralds, rubies oh my!! Who wouldn’t want to adorn their self with these beauties from head to toe? Maybe a ruby anklet. A gold choker. Diamonds at the wrists. Emerald pendants. One day that’s going to be me. But we can hardly call this contemporary fashion. All those movies where the woman inherits the treasure chest of jewelry passed down from generation to generation is a dream come true, but why are these little rocks and pebbles so valuable?

Let’s go back, way back, back into time. For centuries and in all cultures, gemstones have been used for protection, love, money, and health. Ayurveda medicine still incorporates them today for their assistance in healing ailments of the mind, body and spirit. Gemstones have historically been used in talismans and amulets to boost the intentions of the user. An early cuneiform tablet gives a list of stones and their abilities to assist in conception and birth, to inspire love (or hate).

 

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Gemstones are mentioned in the Bible and the Quran. The birthstones we love originate from Aaron, the High Priest’s, breastplate. The 4th Heaven in the Quran is made of carbuncle (garnet). From what was probably the 6th century, we have the ancient sacred (probably Buddhist) treatise Ratnapariksha of Buddhabhatta. The treatise ranks the gems according to caste (diamonds are highly ranked). In Europe during the Renaissance period gemstones were frequently used alongside herbs for a variety of issues. Amulets were banned from the Christian church in 355AD but gemstones were still used, especially in ecclesiastical rings in the 12th century. Turquoise has been used worldwide for health and strength and still is.

Want to walk like an Egyptian queen? Adorn yourself from head to toe in Lapiz Lazuli. Royalty such as the likes of Cleopatra even crushed the stone to wear over their eyes (blue eyeshadow idea?). The powder over the eyes was thought to bring enlightenment and awareness, which any royal leader could use. Ground galena (lead ore) was also used to make kohl eyeshadow.

Other than these fabulous cosmetic uses, the ancient Egyptians also used gems in jewelry and talismans to fight off evil spirits. Clear crystal quartz was included in burial to guide loved ones through the afterlife. Other gems, such as emeralds, were used to promote intentions of wealth and health.

 

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Jade, besides being absolutely gorgeous and of a calming color, has been used for centuries for its special properties. The Chinese are still using jade as a way to ensure good health and prosperity in general, the same way their ancestors did. Some ancient Chinese emperors were even buried in jade armor 1000 years ago.

So what did all these people across space and time know? We’ll never really know how they knew, but they did know something. Since then, Nikola Tesla has proved that all things in the universe are energy and have their own vibration and frequency. Yes, like a radio frequency. We know that radio frequencies are very real (because we all have a radio and can hear the sound). Well Nikola Tesla showed that all things, like gemstones, vibrate in our own energy field.

 

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Have you ever just had a hunch about something? Have you ever walked into a space and just felt peaceful, or walked into a room and just felt like something was wrong? Those were the vibrations we’re talking about. By the physical law of resonance, the vibrations that come from all things create a larger vibrational field that affects our nervous system, which in turn sends information to our brain. These messages can actually create shifts in our biochemistry for positive changes.

It can be really fun researching the properties of different gemstones and crystals. So whether you are just in love with that moonstone pendant or just adore those diamond earrings, go out and be fabulous with purpose!

 

Gemstone (Science) Magic

Diamonds, emeralds, rubies oh my!! Who wouldn’t want to adorn their self with these beauties from head to toe? Maybe a ruby anklet. A gold choker. Diamonds at the wrists. Emerald pendants. One day that’s going to be me. But we can hardly call this contemporary fashion. All those movies where the woman inherits the treasure chest of jewelry passed down from generation to generation is a dream come true, but why are these little rocks and pebbles so valuable?

Let’s go back, way back, back into time. For centuries and in all cultures, gemstones have been used for protection, love, money, and health. Ayurveda medicine still incorporates them today for their assistance in healing ailments of the mind, body and spirit. Gemstones have historically been used in talismans and amulets to boost the intentions of the user. An early cuneiform tablet gives a list of stones and their abilities to assist in conception and birth, to inspire love (or hate).

Gemstones are mentioned in the Bible and the Quran. The birthstones we love originate from Aaron, the High Priest’s, breastplate. The 4th Heaven in the Quran is made of carbuncle (garnet). From what was probably the 6th century, we have the ancient sacred (probably Buddhist) treatise Ratnapariksha of Buddhabhatta. The treatise ranks the gems according to caste (diamonds are highly ranked). In Europe during the Renaissance period gemstones were frequently used alongside herbs for a variety of issues. Amulets were banned from the Christian church in 355AD but gemstones were still used, especially in ecclesiastical rings in the 12th century. Turquoise has been used worldwide for health and strength and still is.

Want to walk like an Egyptian queen? Adorn yourself from head to toe in Lapiz Lazuli. Royalty such as the likes of Cleopatra even crushed the stone to wear over their eyes (blue eyeshadow idea?). The powder over the eyes was thought to bring enlightenment and awareness, which any royal leader could use. Ground galena (lead ore) was also used to make kohl eyeshadow.

Other than these fabulous cosmetic uses, the ancient Egyptians also used gems in jewelry and talismans to fight off evil spirits. Clear crystal quartz was included in burial to guide loved ones through the afterlife. Other gems, such as emeralds, were used to promote intentions of wealth and health.

Jade, besides being absolutely gorgeous and of a calming color, has been used for centuries for its special properties. The Chinese are still using jade as a way to ensure good health and prosperity in general, the same way their ancestors did. Some ancient Chinese emperors were even buried in jade armor 1000 years ago.

So what did all these people across space and time know? We’ll never really know how they knew, but they did know something. Since then, Nikola Tesla has proved that all things in the universe are energy and have their own vibration and frequency. Yes, like a radio frequency. We know that radio frequencies are very real (because we all have a radio and can hear the sound). Well Nikola Tesla showed that all things, like gemstones, vibrate in our own energy field.

Have you ever just had a hunch about something? Have you ever walked into a space and just felt peaceful, or walked into a room and just felt like something was wrong? Those were the vibrations we’re talking about. By the physical law of resonance, the vibrations that come from all things create a larger vibrational field that affects our nervous system, which in turn sends information to our brain. These messages can actually create shifts in our biochemistry for positive changes.

It can be really fun researching the properties of different gemstones and crystals. So whether you are just in love with that moonstone pendant or just adore those diamond earrings, go out and be fabulous with purpose!